Stay with the facts

Calm · Little Light original

When you feel misunderstood, it can be tempting to build a whole explanation around what another person must be thinking. That explanation may become more certain each time you repeat it to yourself. Before you act on it, return to what you can actually describe. The words that were said. The decision that was made. The question that still needs an answer. You can be clear about the effect on you without pretending to know every intention behind it. There is strength in making a fair account of a difficult moment. It leaves room for you to respond firmly, thoughtfully, and with less to regret.

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