Before you answer

Calm · Little Light original

A difficult question lands in the room, and you can feel the pressure to answer before the silence becomes noticeable. The fastest response may protect you from awkwardness, but it can also carry a tone or promise you did not intend. A pause does not mean you are unprepared. It can be the space in which you separate what you know from what you fear, or what the other person asked from what you assumed they meant. You might take one breath, repeat the question, or say that you want a moment to consider it. The conversation can hold a few quiet seconds. Calm is not always something you find after the difficult moment has passed. Sometimes it is a choice you make inside the moment, before your first reaction becomes your final position. You are allowed to answer at the pace of your judgment. A considered response may not make the conversation easy, but it can help you leave it knowing that your words belonged to you.

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